Get Over It
Last week I went to an emotional meeting at my kids' school. There were two groups of parents and two groups of teachers. Both sides were vested, both sides had valid but opposing opinions on a lingering issue, and everyone got more emotional as the evening wore on. Finally one of the parents stood up and said "get over it". It was the one comment that everyone needed to hear - no blame on either side, just get over it. The meeting progressed - we elected a new board, some decisions were made - we started to look ahead.
The evening reminded me of an article written by Marshall Goldsmith in 2008 called “The Best Leadership Advice I Ever Got”. In it, he talks about getting frustrated and bogged down by “stuff” you cannot change and turning into a complainer vs someone who moves forward. Leadership is not about pointing out everything that is wrong. That’s too easy. Leadership is about taking those imperfections and making things better.
So, instead of dwelling on the bad ... let’s just get over it.
http://blogs.harvardbusiness.org/goldsmith/2008/09/the_best_leadership_advice_i_e.html?loomia_ow=t0:s0:a38:g26:r13:c0.049112:b22125272
Wendi Campbell - May 20, 2009
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An early lesson during my MBA days at Ivey was the discovery of people immovably vested in their definition of the problem and unable to conceive, move toward, or accept any solution not grounded on that definition. The capacity to ‘get on with it’ is not extant in everyone. To leave some behind leads to resentments and alienation. For those who do ‘get on with it’ an essential ingredient to success is a unifying, inclusive summation that vests everyone in the solution.
By Ann Teve on November 24, 2009